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Thursday, November 14, 2013

Sorry ma'am, I don't agree with your lifestyle

            The extent that people go out of their way to put down another person never ceases to amaze me.  I can’t even find the words to reflect how offended I am from a picture I saw today of a restaurant receipt.  Before I continue, here’s the picture:

            It reads, “I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle & how you live your life.”

            At Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, NJ, an androgynous lesbian waitress named Dayna was left with this note on the bill after she had served a $94 meal to a mother with her two children.  Upon sitting this family, the server introduced herself as Dayna. The mother quickly interjected to say, “Oh I thought you were going to say your name was Dan. You sure surprised us!”  If that isn’t bad enough, how about a highly judgmental, blindly critical, offensive, slap in the face note opting to leave no tip because of a “lifestyle choice”?  To the children of this monster mom, I am sorry that your minds are being manipulated to judge people based on their appearances without ever knowing them.  You have quite the role model to look up to.

            The fact that this woman referred to Dayna’s sexual identity as a “lifestyle”, as if Dayna had the choice, solidifies my hypothesis that people like this indeed HAVE been living under a rock their entire lives because obviously they haven’t received the “breaking news”: gay people are EVERYWHERE, and guess what else? We’re people, too! I hope the children who witnessed their mother make a public ass of herself will eventually free themselves from her offensive, sheltered grasp. 

Maddison LeRoy


  1. I'm always surprised how rude people get in public. Shows how ingrained the notion of binary gender presentation is to this woman.

  2. I've seen this on a couple blogs now and I am so upset and flabbergasted at the ignorance of some people in our society!!! What an uneducated rude person. This is what's wrong with our world today. Not only do people think like this.. but they publicly show it as if it is no big deal! So astonishing.

  3. Believe it or not, it turns out that this was a hoax. When I found out that this was a hoax, I got really upset because now this waitress is obviously frowned upon. People won't see her as just an unfaithful waitress, but an unfaithful gay waitress, which creates a sort of reputation for the rest of they gay community. It's extremely disappointing that she would frame this family of false accusations because now I feel that the LGBTQ+ community will suffer as a result of her actions.